Here's how Jack (or you) can learn to loosen up: Realize that anxiety is the enemy. It's anxiety holding you back, not your personality, your genes, your lack of willpower. You're not trying to
It also goes both ways, if your ethnicity is something else but you were born and raised in Germany I would consider you German. That's why when you have some people who say they're 1/8th Irish they get laughed at because that's not how we use the concept of Irishness. You're a foreigner at that stage.